Have You Checked Your Self-Talk Lately? 你检查你的自我对话吗？
Did you know that you talk to yourself all day long?您是否知道您谈谈自己整天？ No, not the mental chatter about activities and chores that you need to remember throughout the day.不，不是聊天的精神的活动和家务，你需要记住的一天。 That’sa form of self-talk too, but I’m referring more to the things you say to yourself on a regular basis; and more importantly, the tone in which you say them.这是一个形式的自我交谈过，但我指更多的东西你说给自己定期;更重要的是，在其中的口气你说这些。
When you make a mistake, do you berate yourself angrily?当你犯了一个错误，你谯呵自己愤怒？ Do you put yourself down or call yourself derogatory names?你把自己或致电贬损自己的名字呢？ When you have a hard time making positive changes in your life, do you bemoan what a “worthless” person you are and conclude that you’ll never do anything right?当你很难作出了积极变化，你的生活，你抱怨什么是“毫无价值的”你是和人得出结论，你将永远不会做任何事情吗？
Negative self-talk can be incredibly damaging to your self-esteem, especially if it’sa big part of your daily life.消极的自我对话可以难以置信的损害您的自尊，尤其是如果这是一个大的一部分，您的日常生活。 When you keep saying things like that to yourself, eventually you begin to believe them!当你一直说那样的话给自己，最终你开始相信他们！
Most often these messages begin as statements uttered by the adults in your life when you were a child.这些信息往往是开始发言说出了成年人在你的生活时，你是一个孩子。 They may have said something negative about you when your actions displeased them, or perhaps they had a habit of saying unkind things even when you didn’t deserve it.他们可能说了一些消极你当你的行动，不满他们，也许他们已经习惯说不客气事情，即使你没有得到它。 As painful as these experiences can be, even worse is when you pick up where they left off and keep repeating the same negative messages to yourself over and over!同样痛苦，因为这些经验可以，更糟的是当你拿起他们停下，并重复同样的负面信息给自己，多！
The good news is that you can change your self-talk any time you want.好消息是，您可以更改您的自我谈话任何时候你想要的。 You just have to know how to become aware of the tone of your messages and consciously replace them with more encouraging ones.你只需要知道如何意识到了基调与您的邮件，自觉代之以更令人鼓舞的。
Try these simple steps for starters:试试这些简单的步骤，首先：
1) Develop awareness of your self-talk. 1 ）制订认识您的自我交谈。 It may take practice, but if you keep “listening” in to your inner voice, you’ll begin to notice when you talk negatively to yourself.它可能采取的做法，但如果你让“听”到自己的内心的声音，你会开始时，你讲的通知负面给自己。
2) Challenge the negative messages. 2 ）挑战的负面消息。 When you notice yourself saying something negative such as, “You’re such a screw-up, you can’t do anything right” – stop yourself and challenge that belief.当您发现自己说的消极的东西，如， “你是这样一个螺旋上升，你不能做任何事情的权利” -停止自己与挑战的信念。 Is that really true?是真的吗？ Maybe you mess up sometimes, but do you ALWAYS mess up?也许你搞糟有时，但你总是搞砸？ Probably not.也许不能。
3) Replace the negative messages with positive messages. 3 ）将负面信息的积极信息。 When you realize you’re saying unkind and untrue things to yourself, simply turn it around in your mind.当你意识到你说刻薄和不真实的东西给自己，只要把它在你心里。 Using the above example, you might say, “Wow, that’s not true at all!使用上面的例子中，您可能会说， “哇，这不是真的了！ I do plenty of things right.我很多东西的权利。 It’s true I make mistakes, but so does everyone.所以我会犯错误，但每个人都一样。 I’ma good person and I try my best.我是一个好人，我尽我所能。 That’s good enough for me.”这对我来说不够好。 “
Over time, your efforts will pay off in the form of stronger self-esteem and respect for yourself and your capabilities.随着时间的推移，你的努力将支付的形式，更强有力的自尊和尊重你和你的能力。 It probably won’t happen overnight, but the more you work at turning your self-talk in a more positive direction, the better you’ll feel about yourself.它可能不会在一夜之间发生，但更多的工作，把你的自我谈话，更积极的方向发展，更好地你会感觉自己。
